What are the causes of divorce? Considerations on “spirituality”

 What are the causes of divorce? Considerations on “spirituality”

What Causes Divorce? A Spiritual Perspective

Let’s explore the topic of divorce from a spiritual perspective. Of course, the reasons for divorce vary widely in individual cases, but here I’ll focus on some common patterns that often appear.

Currently, due to the economic impact of COVID-19, achieving financial independence has become more difficult for many. While this may have led to fewer actual divorces, it’s possible that many people are silently carrying emotional burdens within their relationships.

In today’s world, the diversity of values has grown. Differences in perspectives between partners are becoming more apparent, and compared to the past, conflicts arising from these differences may be more likely.

Looking at the differences in male and female psychology, men tend to focus more on being aware of or paying attention to others, whereas women often desire to be noticed or appreciated. Ideally, these opposing tendencies naturally attract each other, like magnets, which is why people are often drawn to partners who complement them in these ways.

Men tend to focus primarily on their own hobbies, work, and interests, but they also want to be aware of women. Their attention often gravitates toward the “visible, tangible world.”

Women, on the other hand, are more likely than men to want to enhance their own “value” in order to be noticed. This makes them more conscious not only of how they are perceived but also of their own inner emotional state.

These insights are particularly relevant in the context of romantic relationships and may resonate more with women, offering understanding and perspective on the dynamics of attraction and attention.

This is not an absolute rule, but for many men, there is an inherent assurance that they can be aware of women at any time. Some men, however, may focus primarily on their hobbies and personal interests.

Among women who feel unnoticed, dissatisfaction can build up, which can become a catalyst for marital conflict and, in some cases, divorce.

For example, in the past, there was a situation involving the son of Takahanada (a sumo wrestler) in which his mother’s frequent visits and over-involvement in his home life were tolerated by him. This caused strong dissatisfaction for his wife. Observing this situation, it seemed almost inevitable that it could lead to divorce—and in fact, it did.

The causes of divorce are contemplation, immaturity, and “spirituality.”

From a spiritual point of view, one major factor often linked to divorce is a low level of emotional or spiritual maturity.

In this blog, we frequently discuss the concept of “soul growth.” Just as acquiring knowledge comes from a series of individual insights, spiritual growth—or the growth of one’s inner character—is similarly built from each moment of awareness.

As a person’s spiritual maturity increases, their presence in the world strengthens in a meaningful way. Their capacity to nourish the hearts of others grows, and the more insights they gain, the broader their perspective on life becomes. In simple terms, this represents being “mentally adult.”

Conversely, low spiritual maturity indicates weaker inner strength. People in this state tend to prioritize satisfying their own desires over attending to the needs of others, and with fewer insights, their perspective on life can be narrow. In spiritual terms, this is akin to being “mentally childlike.”

When both partners in a relationship have low spiritual maturity, stress and conflict are more likely. Each person may prioritize their own emotional satisfaction over nurturing the other, raising the question: who will fulfill each other’s hearts?

While not an absolute rule, many divorces occur when both partners’ emotional needs remain unmet. Men often have less awareness of the heart and emotions, and in some cases, low spiritual maturity may make this more pronounced.

Although women are generally more likely to achieve higher spiritual maturity, some may focus primarily on gaining knowledge without cultivating deeper emotional insights. This can lead to situations where women, too, have lower spiritual maturity than might be expected.

The causes of divorce are considered to be “feminine dominant energy” and “spirituality.”

From a spiritual standpoint, one possible factor behind divorce is the increasing influence of “feminine energy.”

Spiritual teachings suggest that the overall energetic balance on Earth is gradually shifting from a “male-dominant” energy to a “female-dominant” energy. This shift isn’t sudden, like flipping a switch. Instead, it unfolds gradually, more like the relationship between the sun and the moon, affecting everyone regardless of gender.

The rise of feminine energy is still in its early stages. Young women’s emotional energy often expresses itself through strong and contrasting feelings—joy, anger, sadness, and happiness—which can manifest as polarization, contradictions, rapid changes in decisions, and emotional ups and downs.

Men, on the other hand, tend to internalize and control their emotional energy, which can make them rigid in both body and mind. Women, by contrast, tend to release and express their emotional energy outwardly, making them more flexible physically and emotionally.

Change occurs more easily in flexibility than in rigidity. In this sense, the era of feminine-dominant energy marks the beginning of a period of rapid and profound societal change.

Shifts in values are also becoming more noticeable, which may contribute to the occurrence of divorce from a spiritual perspective. The rise of feminine energy can also amplify polarization and conflict in relationships.

In addition, the COVID-19 pandemic has led to an increase in divorces in some Western countries. This trend seems especially noticeable among those with the financial stability to make such life changes.