The social causes of unsuccessful marriage hunting

 The social causes of unsuccessful marriage hunting

Next, regarding the societal causes behind unsuccessful marriage-seeking (konkatsu), from a spiritual perspective, the reasons are reflected in society itself.

This is not an absolute truth, but it may be that these tendencies are becoming more prominent.

The first cause of difficulties in marriage-seeking is the strong societal focus on gender equality.

Looking at the basic differences between male and female psychology: men tend to want to be aware of or notice the other more than they want to be noticed themselves, whereas women tend to want to be noticed more than they wish to notice. Naturally, this opposing tendency acts like a magnet, drawing different sexes together and making romantic connections more likely.

Men generally focus on their own hobbies, work, and the tangible aspects of the real world, while also wanting to be aware of the woman in their life.

Women, on the other hand, have a stronger tendency than men to enhance their own value in order to be noticed, and their consciousness naturally rises toward the part of themselves that is being noticed.

A topic related to the heart and romance, which can be observed from the perspective of women, might help in understanding and gaining acceptance.

Awareness and motivation toward marriage activities tend to be stronger in women than in men. This is because men are more focused on the visible, tangible reality, and there are many things they can pay attention to.

As a result, women engaging in marriage activities are likely to have a stronger desire to improve and refine themselves.

Consider this carefully: the desire of women to increase their own value is primarily aimed at being noticed by men who themselves have high value.

In a society with a strong awareness of gender equality, men of higher value than oneself are not abundant.

This is the underlying cause of why marriage activities may not succeed in society.

Regarding the growth of the soul, as I have often mentioned on this blog, the growth of knowledge consists of awareness of each piece of knowledge, and similarly, the growth of the spirit (reikaku) is awareness of the heart in each instance.

As one’s reikaku increases, one’s spiritual presence strengthens, the ability to fulfill the hearts of others through creativity grows, and the wider one’s awareness of the heart, the broader one’s perspective becomes. This is not a difficult concept, but a matter of becoming spiritually mature.

Conversely, low reikaku means a weaker spiritual presence, a tendency to prioritize satisfying one’s own heart over fulfilling the hearts of others, and a narrower perspective due to fewer heart-based insights. This is not difficult either; it is akin to being spiritually immature, or childlike.

When reikaku is low, people tend to act more passively rather than proactively.

In fact, men and women engaged in marriage activities often display passive tendencies motivated by a desire to have their own hearts satisfied. It is therefore natural that relationships between such spiritually immature individuals may not succeed.

In overseas contexts, the tendency to want to fulfill the heart of the opposite sex is relatively higher, and compared to Japan, there are observable differences in the environment of marriage activities.

In Japanese manga aimed at men, female heroines are often portrayed as deriving joy from the attention of the male protagonist. This has led many men in Japan to mistakenly believe that simply appearing “cool” will make women happy.

Additionally, in marriage activities, women often seek men with an annual income of over 5 million yen. While this is above the national average, it is merely an average, and in reality, most men earn less than this.

Men with higher incomes tend to experience romantic relationships more frequently, making it more natural for them to marry within such contexts.

Japan’s economy is likely to decline further in the future, which may result in an increasing number of women struggling in marriage activities.