The dangers of human relationship reset syndrome

 The dangers of human relationship reset syndrome

Next, I would like to discuss the dangers of “Relationship Reset Syndrome” from a spiritual perspective. The act of resetting relationships itself is not inherently negative; rather, the concern lies in Relationship Reset Syndrome, the repeated pattern of constantly resetting relationships and the risks that come with it.

In today’s era, diversity of values is widely accepted. However, this also implies a dispersion of values, making it more likely that some relationships will not align.

First, let’s examine why Relationship Reset Syndrome can emerge from a physiological perspective.

The psychologist Freud proposed the pleasure principle, stating that humans naturally experience pleasure in all activities—whether eating, sleeping, or relieving themselves. In other words, humans are creatures that inherently seek pleasure.

To put it extremely, existence itself = pleasure. When one feels happiness, one can simultaneously experience a strong sense of existence along with a strong sense of pleasure.

Next, not feeling a sense of presence is not simply about lacking a sense of existence. The human body and mind constantly influence each other, and when a person’s existence feels unacknowledged, stress can arise as a response to a perceived threat to life.

A stress response places a person in a state where they must either attack or flee the source of the stress. Either choice requires energy, and this energy affects both body and mind.

In other words, the physiological mechanism behind Relationship Reset Syndrome is as follows: when a person feels their existence is not recognized in a relationship, stress arises. Choosing the option of escape increases the likelihood of Relationship Reset Syndrome occurring.

From this perspective, one can also consider that in relationships, when stress appears and a person chooses to escape, the desire for human connection resurfaces as a stress of longing, creating a repeating cycle. This cycle manifests as Relationship Reset Syndrome.

If this pattern continues, it may lead to a state where humans themselves are perceived as a source of stress.

In human society, when one cannot attack or flee effectively, the body’s maximal defense instincts can be triggered. This is like being near a massive dinosaur: in order not to be noticed, one’s voice loses its power, and the ability to project sound diminishes. Movement may give away one’s presence, so the body instinctively feels heavy and lethargic, freezing to avoid detection.

External stimuli may further provoke inner unrest, and the body may respond by shutting down reactions to the environment, becoming dull or unresponsive. In extreme cases, even the desire to eat may be suppressed, creating a negative feedback loop.

As I have mentioned in this blog many times, soul growth occurs through the accumulation of each awareness and insight. Knowledge growth is the growth of understanding, and spiritual growth (the development of the soul, or reikaku) is the growth of the heart through one realization at a time.

When reikaku is high, a person gains spiritual presence, the ability to enrich others’ hearts, and a broader perspective shaped by many insights. This is not a difficult concept—it simply reflects spiritual maturity.

Conversely, low reikaku means weak spiritual presence. Such a person tends to prioritize satisfying their own heart over fulfilling others’, and with fewer insights, their perspective becomes narrow. Again, this is not complicated—it reflects spiritual immaturity.

With low reikaku, stress arises more easily, and individuals are more likely to appear passive. Human relationships require an active, engaged mindset. Without this energy, a person may lack confidence in relationships, making them more prone to Relationship Reset Syndrome.

Modern people, being less conscious of their inner hearts, may subconsciously harbor the dangerous tendencies of Relationship Reset Syndrome, even if they are unaware of it.