Men are clingy! Many men are clingy.

 Men are clingy! Many men are clingy.

Men as “Spoiled” or Affectionate Beings

From a spiritual perspective, the tendency for many men to be affectionate or “spoiled” is quite strong.

Even among men who present themselves as strong and resilient, this same group may also display a pronounced tendency to seek comfort and care.

Physically, men tend to embody harder, more rigid elements, whereas women tend to embody softer, more flexible qualities.

Men naturally seek the softness represented by women, and because many affectionate or “spoiled” behaviors arise from a desire for softness and nurturing, men often express themselves in this manner.

In Eastern philosophy, the concept of yin and yang explains that yin seeks yang, and yang seeks yin.

In this framework, men are generally represented as yang and women as yin. While this has sometimes been interpreted as male dominance over females, this primarily refers to physical qualities. Spiritually and psychologically, the yin-yang roles can invert: men may embody yin and women may embody yang.

Yin represents hardness, while yang represents softness. Thus, men seeking the soft qualities of women can be understood as a natural expression of the yin-yang balance, explaining why men often appear affectionate or “spoiled” in their interactions with women.

Spiritual Growth, Self-Awareness, and Men as Affectionate Beings

As I have repeatedly discussed on this blog, the growth of the soul parallels the growth of knowledge: each individual awakening of knowledge contributes to intellectual growth, just as each awakening of the heart contributes to spiritual maturity (reikaku).

As spiritual maturity rises, one’s presence in a mental and spiritual sense strengthens, the ability to fulfill the hearts of others through creative action increases, and with more awakenings of the heart, one’s perspective on life naturally broadens. This is not a complicated concept — it is simply the process of becoming spiritually mature.

Low spiritual maturity means that one’s mental and spiritual presence is weak. Such individuals tend to prioritize satisfying their own hearts over fulfilling others’ hearts, and with fewer awakenings, their perspective tends to remain narrow. Again, this is not a complex idea — it is essentially being spiritually childlike.

Women tend to naturally develop higher awareness of the heart and, while not universally true, often possess the potential for greater spiritual maturity. Men, on the other hand, often have weaker awareness of the heart, and while not universal, low spiritual maturity appears more frequently among men.

The concept of being “affectionate” or a “spoiled” individual can be understood as prioritizing one’s own emotional satisfaction over fulfilling others’ hearts. Among men, this tendency is particularly noticeable, as some prioritize their own heart’s desires, manifesting as affectionate behavior.

From this perspective, male infidelity may sometimes arise from this need to seek affection or emotional comfort. Women who are less receptive to a man’s need for emotional closeness — often those who appear more mature — may therefore face a higher risk of experiencing infidelity.

Sigmund Freud suggested that even basic human activities — eating, sleeping, or attending to bodily functions — inherently provide pleasure. Humans are beings that seek pleasure, a principle he termed the “pleasure principle.” In extreme terms, one could say that existence itself equates to pleasure. Feeling happiness brings a strong sense of presence and intense pleasure simultaneously.

When someone cannot feel their presence, it is not merely a lack of self-awareness. Because the body and mind influence each other, this lack can generate stress, which in turn triggers a fight-or-flight response, consuming energy but also producing mental and physical energy.

Therefore, among men who have fewer personal hobbies or few sources of genuine pleasure, it is understandable — though not universally true — that the tendency to appear affectionate or “spoiled” may be more likely to manifest.