Why men cheat

 Why men cheat

The Spiritual Perspective on Why Men Cheat

From a spiritual viewpoint, there are some characteristic patterns behind why men may cheat. Of course, this doesn’t apply to every man, but when considering basic instincts, it can help explain some tendencies.

Broadly speaking, men tend to be drawn to two types of women. One type is active and lively, similar to an idol or energetic personality. The other type is calm, composed, and serene.

These preferences are linked to instincts developed over thousands of years. Historically, men pursued large prey, like mammoths, and experienced satisfaction when the chase ended and the prey became still. This instinct has shaped two natural tendencies that continue to influence male attraction today.

From a psychological perspective, there are fundamental differences between male and female minds. Men tend to want to be the ones who notice and act, while women tend to want to be noticed and valued. Ideally, these opposing tendencies act like magnets, naturally drawing opposite sexes together.

Men are generally more focused on their hobbies, work, and the visible, tangible aspects of reality. Women, on the other hand, often have a stronger desire to enhance their own value to be noticed, which heightens their awareness of their own inner world.

This insight is particularly relevant in romantic contexts, especially for women, and may help explain and validate some of their experiences.

While not absolute, men who are highly focused on the visible, external world and have few hobbies may be more prone to seek novelty or excitement through infidelity.

As discussed in previous posts on this blog, soul growth is linked to the accumulation of conscious realizations, with spiritual development reflecting inner awareness. A higher spiritual level increases a person’s presence, their ability to fulfill the hearts of others, and broadens their perspective. This is a natural process of maturing emotionally and spiritually.

Conversely, a lower spiritual level reflects weaker presence, prioritizing one’s own satisfaction over the emotional needs of others, which narrows one’s perspective. Men with weaker inner awareness may struggle to empathize with their partners, and this can manifest as infidelity.

Generally, men with limited spiritual awareness may focus more on their own satisfaction than on their partner’s emotional world, which can lead to cheating. Their narrow perspective may also prevent them from seeing the emotional needs of their partner.

Although not absolute, men who cheat often do so with partners who are emotionally mature and composed—women who exhibit strong “calm” qualities, sometimes akin to a maternal figure. In these cases, the man’s desire for emotional depth may be weaker, seeking instead fleeting pleasure.

Additionally, some women may take a directive or controlling stance, which can increase stress for the man. Seeking relief from this stress, some men pursue temporary gratification outside the relationship.

While society often judges men who cheat harshly, spiritually, the dynamics are often influenced by factors contributed by both partners. However, this perspective may not be widely socially accepted.