What causes love to fade? Countermeasures

 What causes love to fade? Countermeasures

What are the causes of love cooling off, and what are the countermeasures? From a spiritual perspective, several reasons can be observed for why love fades.

Compared to the past, the phenomenon of love cooling off may be increasing.

First, in today’s society, awareness of gender equality is strong. Love is often sparked when a partner possesses qualities we ourselves lack, attracting us as the opposite sex. Strong awareness of gender equality can weaken this dynamic, making the attraction less intense.

Rather than strictly being a “cause of love fading,” it is possible that there are simply more people who have little interest in romantic relationships to begin with.

Psychologist Freud suggested that whether a person eats, sleeps, or relieves themselves, there is always some degree of pleasure involved, and humans are creatures who seek pleasure—this is known as the pleasure principle.

To put it extremely simply, presence equals pleasure; when one feels happiness, one can simultaneously experience a strong sense of presence and a strong sense of pleasure.

Not being able to feel a sense of presence is not just about lacking that feeling; the human body and mind constantly influence each other, and this can easily create stress as a form of life-threatening signal.

Stress responses place a person in a state where they must either attack or escape from the source of stress. In either case, energy is required, and this process can generate energy within both body and mind.

In other words, one possible cause of love fading is that in a romantic relationship, a person cannot feel their own presence, cannot experience pleasure, and this manifests as love cooling off.

This is one way to consider the matter.

At the beginning of a relationship, the desire to know and feel the other person is strong. The nervous system becomes more sensitive, which makes excitement easier to experience, and this can make the relationship feel enjoyable.

Once a person knows their partner completely, the need for a highly sensitive nervous response decreases, excitement diminishes, and this may reveal one reason why love fades.

Humans have two emotional elements: one seeks movement or stimulation, and the other seeks calmness or stability.

In dating, repeating this balance is ideal, but many people tend to choose a single activity, such as just going to a movie.

From a spiritual perspective, this is one way to understand the cause of love fading.

As discussed many times on this blog, soul growth corresponds to the accumulation of insights in knowledge, and spiritual growth—reflected in the heart—also develops through each small realization.

When spiritual level is high, one’s mental presence strengthens, the creativity to fulfill others’ hearts increases, and the broader one’s awareness, the wider the perspective one can maintain. This is not a difficult concept; it is simply about becoming mentally mature.

When spiritual level is low, mental presence is weak, and one tends to prioritize satisfying one’s own heart over fulfilling others. With fewer insights, one’s perspective becomes narrower. Again, this is not complicated; it is a sign of being spiritually childlike.

High spiritual level encourages proactive emotions, whereas low spiritual level tends to produce more passive emotions.

When both partners have low spiritual levels, passivity dominates both, leaving little active effort to fulfill each other’s hearts. This can result in love fading.

This is one possible perspective.

Differences in each partner’s ideas about love, or feelings of something missing compared to one’s ideal relationship, can also lead to love cooling off.

From a spiritual point of view, love fading may represent a challenge, offering an opportunity to cultivate the ability to reflect and think critically.