Slander! Differences between men and women

 Slander! Differences between men and women

From a spiritual perspective, there are some differences between men and women regarding slander or verbal abuse.

Psychologically speaking, slander tends to appear more frequently in women. This is not a matter of male superiority or female inferiority.

First, it is important to understand the root cause of slander, regardless of gender.

Psychologist Sigmund Freud proposed the “pleasure principle,” noting that even when people eat, sleep, or attend to bodily functions, they experience some form of pleasure. Humans are beings driven by the pursuit of pleasure.

To put it in extreme terms, one could say that a sense of existence itself equals pleasure. When a person experiences happiness, they also feel a strong sense of presence and intense pleasure simultaneously.

Conversely, the inability to feel one’s own presence is not merely a lack of awareness. The body and mind influence each other continuously, and a diminished sense of presence can easily generate stress, which may feel like a threat to one’s life.

Stress responses place a person in a state where they must either attack or escape from the source of stress. Either way, this process requires energy and can generate mental and physical energy.

In other words, slander or verbal abuse often arises from a desire to assert one’s own existence and seek pleasure.

When a person has hobbies or other interests, they tend to direct their sense of presence toward those pursuits. People who engage in slander, however, may often be somewhat lonely.

Looking at the basic psychological differences between men and women: men tend to want to be aware of others more than to be noticed themselves, while women tend to want to be noticed more than to notice others. These opposing tendencies naturally attract each other, like magnets, facilitating relationships between different genders.

Men are generally more focused on their own hobbies and work while also being aware of women, which makes them oriented toward the visible, tangible world.

Women, on the other hand, are more driven to enhance their own value in order to be noticed, which also heightens their awareness of their inner selves.

In matters of the heart and love, women’s tendencies toward pride and self-worth make this understandable.

Women tend to be conscious of their own value throughout their lives. This can sometimes manifest as diminishing the perceived value of others to elevate their own, which in turn can appear as slander or verbal abuse.

Thus, women’s slander is often rooted in romantic or emotional motivations.

Men, being more focused on the tangible, visible world, may engage in slander when reality does not align with their expectations or desires.

For example, there was a case of a woman appearing on a television program who received slander from men in the general public, which ultimately led to her taking her own life. The visible content did not match the expectations of some viewers, causing displeasure and resulting in slander.

This perspective offers one way of understanding the phenomenon.

As Freud proposed, humans are beings driven by the pursuit of pleasure—the “pleasure principle.”

For some, slander becomes the only way to feel their own existence, which can create a kind of paralysis and dependency, almost like an addiction.

Currently, many people have few friends with whom they can speak openly from the heart, weakening opportunities to feel a genuine sense of presence. This environment makes slander more likely.

With the diversity of values in society, perspectives are increasingly dispersed, and fewer people provide acceptance. While not a positive development, slander can sometimes be understood as a cry from the heart—a reflection of inner struggle and the need to be seen.