Guilt over cheating! Differences between men and women! What about guilt?

 Guilt over cheating! Differences between men and women! What about guilt?

Regarding the guilt of infidelity and the differences between men and women: from a spiritual perspective, there is a certain way of understanding this.

In the Showa era, stories of men being unfaithful were relatively common, whereas stories of women being unfaithful were not as frequent.

In the present day, however, the number of women who engage in infidelity has increased compared to the past, and this difference will also be discussed.

First, let us consider the feeling of guilt associated with infidelity. Guilt tends to appear as a sense that one has committed a wrongdoing against oneself or others.

The psychologist Sigmund Freud proposed that, whether a person is eating, sleeping, or attending to bodily functions, there is inevitably some pleasure involved in these actions. He suggested that humans, as beings who seek pleasure, are guided by what he called the “pleasure principle.”

To put it extremely, it is not an exaggeration to say that existence = pleasure, and when one feels happiness, one should also simultaneously experience a strong sense of presence and strong pleasure.

The inability to feel one’s own presence is not simply about not sensing existence. The body and mind influence each other, and a lack of presence can lead to stress, which may manifest as a threat to life.

In other words, guilt arises when one denies one’s own sense of existence, leading to stress and suffering as a result.

Regarding the differences between male and female psychology: men tend to have a stronger desire to act or be proactive rather than to be noticed, whereas women tend to desire to be noticed more than to act. Ideally, these opposing tendencies attract each other like magnets, making it easier for men and women to connect.

Men generally direct their focus toward their hobbies, work, and also toward women, concentrating more on the visible, material world.

Women, on the other hand, tend to elevate their own value in order to be noticed, more so than men, and their awareness also becomes focused on their own feelings of being noticed.

In women’s social circles, infidelity can lead to labeling a woman as someone of low social value among her peers.

This occurs because accepting infidelity positively could imply that one’s own partner might be unfaithful.

In the past, with close neighborhood ties, the risk of being discovered served as a deterrent: a woman caught in infidelity could be judged by those around her as having low value.

However, today, neighborhood connections are weaker, and in apartment complexes or other shared living spaces, one often does not know one’s neighbors.

As a result, women may be more likely to engage in infidelity compared to the past, and the sense of guilt associated with it may be weaker.

Men, meanwhile, have many external focuses and influences in the world, which can distract them from thinking about infidelity. Their self-awareness may also be weaker, making guilt for infidelity less likely compared to women.

From a spiritual perspective, it is suggested that the overall energy of the Earth is gradually shifting from male-dominant energy to female-dominant energy.

This shift is not like a black-and-white switch that changes suddenly, but more gradual, like the relationship between the sun and the moon, affecting everyone regardless of gender.

Female-dominant energy is still in its early stages. Young women’s mental energy is prone to opposing forces like joy, anger, sorrow, and pleasure, which can manifest socially as polarization, contradictions, abrupt changes in decisions, or waves of instability.

Men tend to suppress and control their mental energy, which can make both mind and body rigid, while women tend to release and control their mental energy externally, making their mind and body more flexible.

Changes occur more easily in flexibility than rigidity. This era marks the beginning of a time of rapid change driven by female-dominant energy.

This shift may also influence preferences for partners, making infidelity more likely.

There is a saying that men live in the past while women live in the future, and due to women’s tendency to forget past events more easily, it is possible that some women experience less guilt.