Did you marry the wrong person? Do you have many regrets? Spirituality

 Did you marry the wrong person? Do you have many regrets? Spirituality

Choosing the Wrong Marriage Partner” — Reflections from a Spiritual Perspective

From a spiritual perspective, it seems that, compared to the past, more people may feel that they chose the wrong marriage partner.

A common scenario involves differences in a husband’s behavior before and after marriage. Many people feel they made a mistake in their choice based on these changes in attitude.

The opposite can also occur, but often the story revolves around noticeable changes in the husband’s behavior after marriage.

For example, in the case of a sumo wrestler’s son, after his marriage, his mother frequently visited their home and interfered in their lives. This son, being somewhat close to his mother, even brought her along to his personal parties.

In some cases, the wife’s position was hardly acknowledged, and divorce was widely expected—indeed, the couple did eventually divorce.

In today’s society, there is a strong emphasis on gender equality, which can lead men to assume that women view the world with the same values and perspectives as men.

However, men and women are inherently different—both physically and psychologically. If one holds the assumption that their partner shares the same values too strongly, conflicts may arise after marriage. This can manifest as the feeling of having chosen the wrong spouse and lead to regret.

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“Choosing the Wrong Spouse” and Regret — Differences in Male and Female Psychology from a Spiritual Perspective

From a spiritual perspective, the topic of choosing the wrong spouse and experiencing regret can be understood through the lens of differences between male and female psychology.

In today’s society, with its strong emphasis on gender equality, some might consider this discussion controversial or even labeled as gender-biased.

The basic psychological difference is that men tend to want to notice rather than be noticed, whereas women tend to want to be noticed rather than notice others. Ideally, this complementary dynamic naturally attracts opposite sexes to one another, much like magnets.

Men generally focus on their hobbies, work, and also notice their partner, with their attention more directed toward the visible, external world.

Women, on the other hand, are more likely than men to focus on increasing their own value in order to be noticed, and their attention is heightened toward their own inner world and emotional self.

This is a discussion centered on the heart and emotions, often more relevant for women, which may help in understanding these dynamics.

Many men strongly focus on the external, visible world and are less attuned to emotional and psychological nuances. As a result, they may not fully realize women’s desire to be seen as valuable and acknowledged.

A common scenario occurs before marriage: during dating, men may focus on and notice their partner’s valuable qualities. After marriage, however, men often shift their attention toward their own hobbies or interests, which can make women feel neglected. This shift can manifest as feelings of having chosen the wrong spouse and experiencing regret.

The potential power of “spirituality” in terms of ‘regret’ for having chosen the “wrong” marriage partner

There is a perspective from spirituality that can help us understand the potential forces behind choosing the wrong spouse and feeling regret.

In spiritual teachings, it is said that the overall energy of the Earth is gradually shifting from a male-dominant energy to a female-dominant energy.

This change is not sudden like flipping a switch, but occurs gradually, like the relationship between the sun and the moon, affecting everyone on Earth regardless of gender.

The female-dominant energy is still in its early stages. The emotional energy of young women tends to display opposing energies, such as joy, anger, sadness, and pleasure. This can manifest in society as polarization, contradictions, sudden reversals of decisions, and wave-like fluctuations.

Men tend to restrain and control their emotional energy, which makes their mind and body relatively rigid, while women tend to release and express their emotional energy, which makes their mind and body more flexible.

Change occurs more easily in flexibility than rigidity, and the era we are entering, influenced by this female-dominant energy, is beginning to be a period of rapid and intense transformation.

When it comes to choosing the wrong spouse and experiencing regret, these feelings may also arise as part of this shift—a change from previous expectations. Compared to the past, these spiritual forces may make it more likely for people to feel that they have chosen the wrong partner and experience regret.