Tired of marital quarrels! Spiritual

 Tired of marital quarrels! Spiritual

Understanding the Fatigue of Marital Conflicts: A Spiritual Perspective

Let’s explore the topic of marital arguments from a spiritual viewpoint. The energy spent in any conflict can be draining, and it’s natural for fatigue to arise.

Here, I want to focus specifically on the exhaustion that comes from marital quarrels.

It’s not always clear which partner is more likely to feel drained from a fight. However, from a spiritual perspective, there are ways to understand this dynamic.

First, let’s discuss the basic reasons why marital conflicts can be so tiring.

The Psychology of Stress in Marital Conflicts

The psychologist Sigmund Freud proposed the pleasure principle, suggesting that whether eating, sleeping, or taking care of basic bodily needs, humans naturally experience some level of pleasure. Humans are essentially driven to seek this pleasure.

In a way, one could even say that a sense of existence equals pleasure—when we feel happiness, we simultaneously experience a strong sense of being alive and a strong sense of enjoyment.

When a person cannot feel their own presence, it’s not just a lack of self-awareness. The mind and body constantly influence each other, and this can make one more susceptible to stress, especially when life feels threatened.

The stress response places a person in a state where they instinctively must either fight or flee, both of which require energy and can generate physical and mental energy in the process.

Of course, within a household, escaping is not an option. As a result, this energy often manifests as marital conflict, with both partners engaging in subtle or overt attacks that chip away at each other’s sense of presence. This creates stress, which in turn drains the mind and body, leaving both partners exhausted.

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The Fatigue of Marital Conflicts: Differences Between Male and Female Psychology from a Spiritual Perspective

From a spiritual perspective, the exhaustion that comes from marital arguments can differ depending on male and female psychology.

Men tend to want to be aware of others more than to be the center of attention, while women generally want to be noticed more than they seek to notice. In a way, these opposing tendencies act like magnets, naturally drawing men and women together.

Men often focus on their hobbies, work, and the visible, tangible aspects of reality, even in relationships. Women, on the other hand, tend to invest in enhancing their own value in order to be recognized, and they are more attuned to the state of their own hearts.

This dynamic, especially in matters of the heart, is often more relevant to women and can help explain why certain patterns in romantic or marital conflicts occur.

In practice, men may cope with marital conflicts by retreating into their personal hobbies or interests, which can help them regulate their emotions. Women, however, strongly desire recognition and validation, and their dissatisfaction often persists until they feel acknowledged.

Additionally, men tend to control and contain their mental energy, which can make both mind and body tense. Women, in contrast, tend to release and express their mental energy, which often makes their mind and body more flexible.

From the perspective of psychological energy, when women project their energy toward men, men absorb and contain it, which can be more taxing for them. In these situations, men are often the ones who experience greater fatigue.

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Marital Conflict Fatigue and the Spiritual Level of the Soul

From a spiritual perspective, the exhaustion that comes from marital arguments can also be seen through the lens of the soul’s level.

Spiritual growth occurs through awareness. Just as gaining knowledge involves small insights, the growth of the soul—what we might call spiritual character—also develops through each heartfelt realization.

When spiritual character is high, a person’s presence and vitality in a mental sense are strong. They are more creative in uplifting others, and their broader awareness allows them to see life from wider perspectives. In simple terms, this is what it means to become spiritually “mature.”

Conversely, a low spiritual character reflects weaker presence and vitality. People with low spiritual character often prioritize satisfying their own heart over uplifting others, and their limited awareness narrows their perspective. Spiritually, this is akin to being “childlike.”

A lower spiritual character also makes one more susceptible to stress.

While not absolute, men are often more focused on the visible, external world and may be less attuned to their own inner hearts. This can weaken their awareness of each heartfelt insight, making low spiritual character more common among men.

As a result, fatigue from marital conflicts tends to appear more strongly in men, and men are more likely to withdraw or distance themselves during such situations.