I want a divorce! What is the reason? Spiritual

 I want a divorce! What is the reason? Spiritual

“Wanting a divorce”! What is the cause? From a spiritual perspective, the tendency for this may be increasing.

Currently, we are living in an era that accepts the “diversity of values,” but this also means a dispersion of values, making it easier for differences to appear in values with which one can empathize.

From a spiritual point of view, the causes behind wanting a divorce can be considered in several ways.

First, consider the differences between male psychology and female psychology. Men tend to want to pay attention to others more than to be noticed themselves, whereas women tend to want to be noticed more than to pay attention. Ideally, these opposing tendencies attract each other like magnets, making it easier for men and women with different natures to come together.

I want a divorce! What is the reason? Spiritual

Men, by nature, tend to focus on their own hobbies and work while also being aware of women, making them more attuned to the visible, material world.

Women, on the other hand, tend more than men to want to enhance their own value in order to be noticed, and they also become more aware of their own inner feelings in the process of being recognized.

This perspective, related to matters of the heart and romantic relationships, may help explain tendencies often observed in women, and could provide a basis for understanding and insight.

Although it may not be a universally common scenario, dissatisfaction can arise in women when they feel that their value is not being recognized.

Additionally, if men direct their attention toward things other than their partner, women may feel ignored, which from a spiritual perspective can contribute to feelings that lead to wanting a divorce.

“I want a divorce.” The reason: low spiritual level. “Spiritual.”

“I want a divorce.” The reason: low spiritual level. “Spiritual.”

“Wanting a divorce” and its causes can often be viewed from a spiritual perspective as connected to a low level of the soul.

“Spiritual growth of the soul”—as discussed repeatedly in this blog—parallels the growth of knowledge, where each piece of knowledge represents an individual insight, and likewise, the growth of the heart, or spiritual maturity, is also made up of individual insights from the heart.

When spiritual maturity is high, one’s existential presence strengthens in a psychological sense, the capacity to fulfill the hearts of others increases, and with more insights, one’s perspective naturally broadens. This is not a difficult concept—it is simply the idea of becoming an adult in a spiritual sense.

Conversely, when spiritual maturity is low, one’s existential presence is weak, the desire to satisfy one’s own heart tends to take precedence over fulfilling others’ hearts, and with fewer insights, one’s perspective narrows. This, too, is not a difficult concept—it reflects being a child in a spiritual sense.

With low spiritual maturity, existential presence is weak, stress arises more easily, and the drive to seek a sense of presence or validation becomes stronger.

Within the desire to divorce, there may be a reflection of one’s own unfulfilled heart. While not an absolute rule, the capacity or inclination to fulfill a partner’s heart may also be limited.

“I want a divorce,” the reason for it, “presence,” and “spirituality”

“I want a divorce,” the reason for it, “presence,” and “spirituality”

The desire to divorce often stems from a sense of not feeling one’s own presence, and this tendency is likely strong even without a spiritual perspective.

The psychologist Freud proposed the pleasure principle, noting that whether people eat, sleep, or relieve themselves, some form of pleasure naturally arises, and humans are fundamentally creatures seeking pleasure.

To put it extremely, one could say “sense of presence = pleasure.” When a person feels happiness, they can simultaneously experience a strong sense of presence and strong pleasure.

Not feeling a sense of presence is not just about lacking presence—it also affects both the body and mind, which influence each other. This can make stress more likely to arise, as a form of existential threat.

Stress responses place a person in a choice between attack or escape toward whatever is causing the stress. Both options require energy, and in fact, stress can also generate energy in the mind and body.

Within the desire to divorce, the energy produced by stress can manifest as aggressive feelings or behaviors reflecting the human self.

While not based on exact research, it appears that much of the conflict around divorce arises from misunderstandings between male and female psychology. Sharing and understanding these differences could potentially improve the situation.

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