Characteristics of women who repeatedly divorce and remarry

 Characteristics of women who repeatedly divorce and remarry

From a spiritual perspective, there are women who tend to repeat divorce and remarriage.

While this could be considered a “problem” in conventional terms, spiritually, unless the individual becomes aware of the underlying patterns, such behaviors may continue to recur.

The tendency of women to go through repeated divorces and remarriages is closely linked to differences between male and female psychology.

Men tend to prioritize “wanting to be aware of” or act upon their interests rather than seeking to be noticed, whereas women tend to prioritize “being noticed” over simply acting on their own. Naturally, these opposing tendencies often attract each other like magnets, making it more likely for men and women to form relationships.

Men generally focus on their hobbies, work, and other visible aspects of reality while also paying attention to women.

Women, on the other hand, often have a stronger desire than men to enhance their own value in order to be noticed, which also increases their awareness of their own inner state.

From a spiritual perspective, this is a discussion about romance and relationships that may be particularly relevant to women, and one that may help in understanding certain patterns.

Before marriage, a woman’s heart tends to be fulfilled when a man consciously pays attention to her during the dating period.

As mentioned before, men naturally wish to act upon their own interests and hobbies while also being aware of the woman in their life.

After marriage, from a man’s perspective, there is a built-in sense of “attention toward the woman,” which allows him to prioritize his hobbies or personal interests.

This shift may lead a woman to feel less noticed, resulting in dissatisfaction and a sense that her own value is diminished—sometimes manifesting as divorce.

When a woman meets a new partner, this pattern may repeat. In the dating phase, the new man often gives more attention, fulfilling the woman’s heart, which can again lead to a cycle of divorce and remarriage.

Regarding spiritual growth, as repeatedly mentioned in this blog, the growth of knowledge is made up of each individual realization, and similarly, the growth of the heart—spiritual rank or “reika”—is achieved through each inner realization.

When one’s spiritual rank rises, their existential presence strengthens, their ability to fulfill the hearts of others increases, and their perspective broadens in proportion to the number of realizations they have. This is not a complicated concept; it is essentially about becoming spiritually mature.

Conversely, a low spiritual rank indicates weaker existential presence, a tendency to prioritize one’s own desires over fulfilling others’ hearts, and a narrower perspective. This is spiritually akin to being a child.

Generally, men tend to be less aware of their own hearts, which makes it easier for low spiritual rank to manifest. Women, by contrast, tend to have stronger awareness of their hearts, and through each realization, may raise their spiritual rank.

However, there are women whose awareness of their inner self is weak, whose spiritual rank is low, and who act passively—prioritizing only the fulfillment of their own heart.

Such women are more likely to be the ones who repeatedly experience divorce and remarriage.

Traditionally, in the mindset of women, a divorced woman is often viewed as having “less value,” and resistance to divorce naturally arises.

Yet, if spiritual rank is low and perspective is narrow, such resistance may not manifest, allowing the cycle of divorce and remarriage to continue in some women.

It is not absolute, but there may also be underlying complexes—unfulfilled desires from childhood that grow stronger in adulthood, with an increased focus on satisfying those unmet emotional needs.

Compared to the past, the diversity of values and the social pressure to conform have weakened, which may contribute to the rise of women repeating divorce and remarriage.